I’m Lori, and I’m a retired Educational Assistant.
I worked with the Durham Catholic District School Board for nearly 25 years. I loved my job. I loved the students, and I loved the staff I worked with. I never imagined I’d retire early—but I did. And it wasn’t because I wanted to. It was because I didn’t feel safe, respected, or supported anymore. I had to chose a school for this story but this school doesn't necessary represent the good or bad experiences I am about to share.
Over the years, I’ve been hit, bruised, and bloodied—black eyes, busted lips, and more. At one point, strangers and even my own family thought I was being abused at home. But the truth is, these injuries came from students who were in crisis—students who needed help, but didn’t get the support they deserved.
We talk a lot about how the government is failing schools. That’s true. We absolutely need more funding and better resources. But that’s only part of the story. Leadership in our schools matters just as much. I worked in some schools where I felt appreciated and safe—where leadership made a real difference. And I worked in others, with the same funding, where I felt dismissed and afraid to speak up.
The Board has policies around harassment and bullying. But policies don’t mean much if they’re not enforced— staff are being harassed and ignored, even by those in charge.
That’s why I’m sharing this. Because I know these conversations are happening behind the scenes, and they need to be brought into the light. If you’re a leader and this message hits close to home—reflect. Change starts there. If you’re working in a school and feeling like I did—you’re not alone.
To every EA still showing up, doing the hard work, I see you. I know your battle. You deserve respect. You deserve safety. And you deserve to be heard.
It’s time we all listen.

I have been an EA for 20 years. This job is not the same job it was 20 years ago. Over the last 5 years or so it has taken a downward turn. My stress level has skyrocketed! Just going into work is stressful because I never know what the day will hold. Less and less, I am helping students with academic needs. More and more I am facing students with extreme violent behaviors. Behaviors that not only impede their ability to learn, but also impede other students' ability to learn. Every day I go into work I hope I can leave the same way I came in, but it has gotten to the point that leaving with "only" a scratch or bruise that will heal quickly is a good day, in what other job do you say that. Since 2019 I have had 3 concussions and 1 count of whiplash at the hands of students I work with, before 2019 I had never had a concussion or been seriously injured on the job. I am currently off work recovering from a concussion and now am facing seeing a neurologist to ensure there hasn't been any brain damage from all the trauma to my brain. This violent behavior not only takes a physical toll on my body, but also a toll on my mental health. Daily my co- workers and I are faced with being spat at and on, sworn at, kicked, punched, and bit. You can only endure so much of that. I am in tears and I see them in tears too. I feel these incidents are not taken seriously enough; every child has a right to an education, I would never argue that, but I have the right to feel safe coming to work. I have the right to have something left in the tank at the end of the day so my own kids get some of me too. So often I have nothing left to give after being at work. I struggle constantly to reconcile loving this job and being so passionate about it, but also legitimately wondering how much longer I can do this for.

So far my experience with Hillsdale P.S has been positive. The school fosters a warm, inclusive environment where students feel safe, encouraged, and excited to learn. We’re happy to be a part of this school community.

Since the previous principal left, the environment at this school has unfortunately declined. The new principal, ***, consistently treats the Black children with disrespect and has made remarks that come across as racially biased. This has created an atmosphere that feels unsafe and unfair for my children and others.

When my children first began attending, *** was very welcoming and respectful. Over the years, however, I’ve noticed a steady decline—not only in how the students are treated, but also in how parents are spoken to and respected.

Another serious concern is the conduct of some teachers. From my understanding, teachers have been searching through parents’ social media accounts in order to gather personal information that does not pertain to school matters. I find this invasive, unprofessional, and completely inappropriate.

Overall, what was once a positive school environment has become one that makes both my children and myself feel uncomfortable and disrespected. I truly hope steps are taken to address these issues and restore the respectful, supportive atmosphere that every child and parent deserves.

This school is a joke. 4 principals and nothing is ever done to fix a problem. Superintendent can’t even reply to an email. No support for students who need it. Teachers are horrible, don’t follow rules and make up their own. Screaming in students faces. Absolute joke of a school with zero accountability even when proven wrong. 0/10 do not recommend.

Past employee here. Amazing program support and admin. Always felt supported and heard. Collaboration is always happening. Wish more schools would follow suit.